Platonic crushes?

I remember this post some time ago, in the infp subreddit, by the way I think both types share similarities and would like yo know about your experience cause I'm feeling something strange towards a new friend and I want to know if this is one of those non sexual crushes or whatsoever:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.reddit.com/r/infp/comments/3tqzpm/do_you_get_superintense_nonsexual_crushes/

24, female. I have always considered myself straight, felt physical attraction towards guys, wanted to have romantic relationships only with men, have a boyfriend right now, etc.

There's this coworker at new job. When I first met her I thought she was quite geekish, but later I started seeing innocence and goodness in her, appreciating her girlnextdoorness (if that even exists). Now I got to know her a little bit more I'm overwhelmed by her sweetness. She comes to my mind during the day and I long to know everything about her. Sharing time with her makes me happy and gives me a warm feeling because of her cuteness, I want her to think I'm a good person who is worth being considered a friend. I could talk about this one girl for hours. I really appreciate when she is nice and friendly to me.

I feel some sort of fascination with her as if she was one of the female protagonists of the novels I write.

But I don't want to have any more than friendship in a dating sense (she has a boyfriend too, and I find it so cute rather than feeling jealous. I want to befriend her and know everything about ver love life and the men she likes). Neither I want to kiss her (To me the idea is just laughable and absurd). I don't want her to be sexually attracted to me.

Yet maybe I wouldn't mind a little bit of touch without it getting too close (maybe patting her back or a sisterly hug, not holding hands or very long cuddling).

All this feelings I get are really different to the ones I get when I like a guy (find him hot, want him to notice me and get jealous of the girls that actually get him). I don't feel she is hot. I don't even think she is particularly attractive. I just find her lovable I don't know why.

Is this just friendship feeling that comes in a strong way?

I've never felt this for a friend: with the rest of girls it is like: hey, you're fun to be with, let's get along. With her it's: You're so adorable it hurts…

I don't know if this is an infp/intp/personality thing. I also tend to be really obsessive and over-analyzing of things (which may also be an infp thing… Are there more obsessers here?? Hahaha). I suffered HOCD (you can google about it) ten years ago, when I was a stupid teen who didn't know herself and I then noticed I got really drawn to female characaters in my stories. That hit my mind in a really hard way and suffered great distress. My fear if being gay and checking my feelings in each freaking moment was everything I could thing about. Then I grew out of it and always wanted to have a boyfriend/be attractive to hot guys/liked men, etc. But it's funny because I don't tend to obsess over the guys I liked (I mean, I went crazy about finding a boyfriend and Hot guys in general but not about any specific guy, just physically attracted)

I don't know if this sounds of just being contemplative and appreciating of other people or whether I might be bisexual.

TL;DR: Always been straight. I find this new friend ridiculously cute and sweet and I'm going through typical crush excitement/warm feeling/obsession about her. But I don't feel like dating her nor making out. Very confused about this.

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Would you say our brains are archives of useless knowledge?

And that's not to say that the knowledge we tend to possess isn't necessarily useless, but we do tend to absorb alot of knowledge, but most of it isn't very applicable to the situations we find ourselves in, thus rendering it useless. Like I can understand the planets of the solar system and all the celestial bodies that orbit them, but I likely will not find a use for it due to present realities. So do we mostly possess useless knowledge?

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Would you say our brains are archives of useless knowledge?

And that's not to say that the knowledge we tend to possess isn't necessarily useless, but we do tend to absorb alot of knowledge, but most of it isn't very applicable to the situations we find ourselves in, thus rendering it useless. Like I can understand the planets of the solar system and all the celestial bodies that orbit them, but I likely will not find a use for it due to present realities. So do we mostly possess useless knowledge?

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20 Differences I’ve noticed between INTPs and INTJs (as an INTP)

  1. INTPs tend to be lazy at home, but are hard workers given they actually have work and can work extremely hard on passion projects. INTJs on the other hand are only lazy when they're depressed and it's rare for them not to have at least fairly well-paying and consistent work if they aren't students.
  2. INTJs are more consistently emotional than INTPs, but INTPs have larger (or at least equally large) emotional extremes.
  3. INTJs feel more affective empathy than INTPs but at the same time are less forgiving and less tolerant of people they dislike.
  4. INTJs are more easily offended/annoyed/angered. It takes a lot to piss off an INTP but if you hit the right trigger INTP rage can be scarier than INTJ rage.
  5. INTJs tend to be more "modern" than INTPs in their language, interests, and attire. INTJs also put more effort into their physical appearance (obviously).
  6. INTPs like money, but are less interested in material success than INTJs.
  7. INTPs tend to have poorer social skills than INTJs, but are more friendly and outgoing.
  8. INTJs are more likely to be female (about 39% of INTJs are women, versus only 31% of INTPs), contrary to popular belief they are the rarest type for a woman. They might even be the least male-heavy of all the Thinking types.
  9. INTPs are generally more artistically inclined than INTJs, though unlike INFPs it's more of a "side gig" rather than a core facet of their personality.
  10. INTJs have much stronger personal boundaries than INTPs. Although INTPs are also private, it has more to do with the need for alone time whereas INTJs are more safety-conscious.
  11. INTPs don't mind talking about their feelings (if they can actually describe what they're feeling correctly), while INTJs find it highly embarrassing.
  12. INTJs have a stronger sense of honor. They take promises more seriously and they are more offended when people are disrespectful.
  13. INTPs often don't mind small talk, INTJs loathe it.
  14. INTPs tend to be less favoritive about the people they are friendly towards, while INTJs tend to be intensely loyal to a few people.
  15. INTPs tend to have more "autistic-like" narrow intense interests while INTJs tend to be more "well-rounded" in their interests.
  16. INTJs generally take better care of their bodies, and are more likely to be slim-normal weight range. INTPs are more likely to be overweight or very thin.
  17. Although neither type is athletic, INTJs are the more jockish of the two.
  18. INTJs are more likely to support capital punishment.
  19. Oddly I think INTPs might actually be the more religious type, though it's hard to say.
  20. INTPs like cats, INTJs like dogs.

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